In Love, You Get What You Focus On

Being in a total loving, intimate, and passionate relationship is one of the common things that most people expect to achieve in their lifetime.  The feeling of being loved and desired by that special soul until death-do-us-apart is much more than a human need, it is the irrational force that makes us commit to long-term relationships intending to spend the rest of our days under the influence of the love potion.

But on the way to happily-ever-after, something unexpected occurs to a lot of couples and the relationship disintegrates.  Recent studies alarmingly show that 58% of people who married for the first time end up in divorce, 65% of second marriages and 85% of third marriages also end-up in divorce. 

For many decades, many couples have sought help from conventional marital therapists, but obviously this route has not prevented people from divorcing or just settling into an average, life-less and monotonous relationship either.

There is a universal law that teaches us that what we focus our attention on, grows, expands, and gets bigger.  In relationships, this means that we must keep our eyes on the target instead of the obstacles. As a first step, we must focus our thoughts, our feelings, and our energies into the positive aspects of the relationship: what is it that we really truly want, what would that relationship be like and feel like, and start acting and reacting to your couple from this uplifting feeling that you just created for your relationship. In future blogs, I will provide you more details in how to succeed in getting the love we all really want, but for now focus on loving with passion!